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BEST ENGAGEMENT PERIOD

Normal  Engagement period should be less than a year, call it 6 months, not more than 3 years. 

The period during engagement supposed to be less than one year

you don’t have to prolong the engagement to three years or more,

This wil

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Premarital Sex

stop the woman time of getting married stop the woman

from becoming what she wans to b, so keping the woman that

long is very very bad you need marry the woman for sure the

woman need some love, some seriousness, you must b very

serious with her that in due course you will agreed to marry her it

is not something that you put on the marriage/engagement for so

long we’re during the process the woman become old and she

wouldn’t be attracted to any other man again so prolonging the

marriage or engagement would destroy the girls future because

you may end up marrying another woman and leave her alone and

that is very very bad . in my advice I advise that you should not

engage a woman 4 more than 6 months before marriage. this very

dating relationship courtship or engagement period should be

short. There should be nothing like sex you should not sleep

together you got to b very careful, she may want to attract you or

whatever she may want to seduce you but you are the man, you

need to be very very careful so as to make the marriage come to

pass without premarital Sex, my advice to you today is to be

careful of who tells you that he loves you and deeply inside is Lust,

he is really getting you easily engaging, he easily catch up with you

just to get what he wants… and that is sex and finally got what he

wanted from you , he would drop you, he would dump you just like

a refuge shit, gosh so one need to be very very careful when it

comes to engagement, when it comes to relationship, when it

comes to dating, and when it comes to matters we need to be very

very careful so from today onward if you have dated him for more

than 3 years if you understand my English Babe please please

leave. Very much for he is not serious with you no matter the

condition I mean no matter the condition no matter how the issue

is, you should leave. ya! because he is not serious you need to

look for a better man because he is standing as a stumbling block

as an obstacle and then drive to your success n wish to destroy

God’s plan for you. because so many people are looking for your

hand in marriage but he is dead trying to delay your future so you

have to do something about it this time that its not too late, now

that you are landed, you are still attractive, you are not old, now

that you are still looking pretty because during this time/yrs that

you are with him (Green disease), your destiny is being thwart by

him. # MyAdvice

Sexual Orientation! its Meaning -Naira Producers

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SEX AND THE SWEETNESS

Everybody talks about SEX or Love and some of them don’t even know the Meaning of saying “I Love You” Read here!

Let me ask you, What is the meaning of “sexual orientation”?’
If you’re anything like me – and most other people – you would
probably answer something along the lines of: ‘It’s the sex I’m
attracted to’ or ‘The genitals I like to bone’.

For the longest time this sat well enough with me. I was happily
attached to the Kinsey scale of sexual orientation. You know: on
the one side is homosexuality, on the other hetero, somewhere in
between is bisexuality, and on either side of bisexuality a blur of
‘sexual fluidity’.

But bisexuality became a problem for me.
You see, I like women. I find them sexually provocative – as
sexually provocative, even, as I find men. But I don’t consider
myself bisexual.

In my mind, if you’re bisexual, it’s not just about whether you find
men and women sexually appealing, it’s that you would happily
enter into a full-on relationship with either.

Although I’m a fan of women, my expression has never moved to
include a more long-term, intimate expression with them. Hence,
I don’t consider myself bisexual.

Unfortunately, this doesn’t sit well with Kinsey’s scale.
And that’s a problem. Because if sexual orientation was just
about which genitals turn you on, does that make me an in-the-
closet bisexual or are all bisexuals really just gay or straight, and
bicurious or fluid?

(Ha. Sit down bisexual peeps, I ain’t dissing. Keep reading…)
Without ruling out the former possibility, the latter gives real
pause for thought. Because how bisexuality has traditionally
been framed in the mainstream, and supported by the Kinsey
scale – is pretty how homosexuality has been framed: it’s ‘just’
about the sex, really. Only heterosexuals seem to have
relationships.

Huh?

If we’re looking at the little box labeled ‘sexual orientation’ is it
possible that the old definitions as laid out by Kinsey need to
expand to more than just sex? Isn’t it time to include ‘relational’,
so that we understand ‘orientation’ as both sexual and relational
across the board?

These were the questions and ideas that were presented to me at
a recent sexology workshop with gender activist and
psychosexual educator Delene van Dyk.

In the presentation of her training modality on gender and sexual
orientation, Binaries and Boxes, she is reformatting how people
understand the complex nature of sexuality.
Delene explains it this way: Imagine there are two boxes, one
labeled ‘sexual and relational orientation’ and the other labeled
‘sexual play’.

Under sexual and relational orientation you have heterosexual,
homosexual (lesbian and gay), bisexual, asexual, polysexual.
This your personal identity, and your emotional and sexual
expression towards others.

Then there is a second box, labeled sexual play. This is where it
gets really interesting. Because this is where stuff like
‘bicuriosity’, ‘fluidity’, MSM and WSM (respectively ‘men who
have sex with men’ and ‘women who have sex with women’) and
so on, find a home.

It’s basically all the possible combinations of body parts – male
or female – that turn us on … regardless of how we identify.

In other words, you can identify as a heterosexual woman or man
– and still enjoy fantasizing and playing with people of the same
sex. You can identify as a lesbian and still enjoy sex with a male
penis from time to time.

You can identify as gay and still
fantasise about smashing your face into a big ol’ pair of pretty
titties on occasion.

Your pure sexual attraction, play and fantasies don’t ‘make’ you
gay or straight or asexual.
‘Kinsey’s scale was about pure sexual attraction, it didn’t
consider emotional attraction and, for me, that’s the gap in his
work,’ says Delene. ‘Your sexual orientation should be your
“sexual and relationship orientation”; it’s about identity, attraction
and relationship formation.

‘It’s the gender that you can be with at your most intimate and
vulnerable with. A bisexual person can feel that deep, intense
level of comfort on a very intimate level – sexually, emotionally
and psychologically – with both sexes.’

The avenues this opens up for how we view and make sense of
human sexuality and relationship building is staggering.
The clarity it will help bring to those who struggle with feelings of
confusion because they have sexual play needs that are in
contradiction to their emotional expression or their identity cannot
be underestimated.

However, there is a chance that those in the closet might use this
new framework to dig deeper into the dark, who have entrenched
themselves in a relationship status and scramble daily for
justifications. Think of the lesbian who has bought into the social
structure of male/marriage/home/two kids…

‘Never underestimate the power of internalised homophobia,’
Delene tells me. ‘Most of us grew up in a very misogynistic,
gender insensitive, homophobic society – don’t underestimate
how powerful that is on the mind of the individual.
‘If you’ve never been capacitated emotionally to be able to step
into own identity and desire, you’ll go into denial – and that is a
very strong defense mechanism.’

I know there are those who will pooh-pooh any talk that tries to
label and create frameworks around sexual orientation – in the
old Kinsey style or Delene’s new structure.

If we were living in utopia where everybody was chillaxed with
their feels and how their fannies are tickled, where there was no
cultural brainwashing and Orwellian levels of denial, I’d agree.
But we don’t.

And any work that strives to bring clarity to the complex topic of
human sexuality and make people’s lives easier or more honest
for it, is fine by me.

Your comments is welcomed. what is Sexual orientation in your own understanding?

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